I'm awake, bright eyed and bushy tailed, at 5am. I have been waking up more and more in the middle of the night, and early morning these days, so I figured I would write a little bit about something that has been on my mind a lot these past few weeks.
Why is it that people automatically assume that because they have/had a difficult baby, that everyone else will too. I have had so many people tell me things like, "just wait until she cries all the time", or "just wait until she won't sleep"... just wait this, just wait that. Why is it that "veteran" parents can't be encouraging to new parents, and support them in the new journey? Instead, new parents are being scared to death because someone else had a colicky baby, or a non-sleeper.
I don't believe for a second that being a parent will be easy, don't get me wrong, but where is the encouragement? Everyone seems to think that warning us about their doom and gloom is so helpful, but to me it's just another way of bringing us down, and scaring us into doubting our abilities in caring for our girl.
I am sorry if you had a difficult infant, but does that mean you have to doom us to the same fate?
Why not say something positive about your child, so that when we hit a rough patch with ours, we can remember that it isn't all doom and gloom to have a baby, but rather a beautiful, wonderful miracle, even if it is difficult at times!!
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